Your Mistake, My Lesson.

A few days back, I was in a class where my teacher shared this quote with us,
“Aviation regulation are written in blood.”
We have always listened that we have to learn from our mistakes, so that we won’t commit them again, but what strikes me is, do we really need to practice something by ourselves so that we know if it is good for us or not?

Did you jump right in to the fire when someone told you that it can burn you to death saying, “Nae yar, mai nae manta mujhay pehle khud zara jalnay do.” (No, I don’t believe it. Let me burn myself down first.), or did you drown yourself in a deep ocean when someone told you that it can be deathly for you? Or did you cut yourself in to pieces when someone told you that this knife is sharp enough to drag you to your grave? You didn’t do any of this, right? Because it is never necessary for us to do something which we already know is harmful for us, not because we have been through it, but because we saw or we listened some authentic sources getting harmed because of that.

There must have been someone who experienced the burns and aches of fire and warned others about it, or may be that someone died and others learnt how fire can be contagious for human beings.

Same like that person, there are a hundred of people around us which are trying to give us some lesson by the mistakes they are committing. There must be a guy, who has just proved how foolish it is to invest this amount in this business, or there is your friend sitting right beside you and he/she opted for a wrong procedure and just showed you not to use that formula or that procedure when you are going to solve that particular problem. So, why do you need to endanger yourself when you can easily OBSERVE it from the people around you? Look around you, open your eyes.

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Life is not a hundred years long in which you have ample choices to make perfect decisions so that 99 out of 100 of them can go down the drain, along with the time which will never come back. Learn from your mistakes, as well as the people around you, their mistakes, their struggles. I agree that there may be a situation which can appear as completely unique and tangled which you think never anyone has faced, but I bet there may be someone who has equally gone through each and everything and can be a super guide for you and your future.

At least this way, you can make them feel good by thanking them for guiding you unintentionally. May be it is chance for you to help yourself from drowning and also a chance to make that someone smile who just survived the horrendous waves of the sea. May be it is a chance for you to say, “your mistakes became my lessons.”

CAUTION: I don’t take guarantee of temper of the person you want to go and thank. Don’t blame me when he/she suddenly starts beating you to death. First, observe if he/she has been in good mood or else you will become a lesson for others :p Hence, it is better to observe usually silently.


The Black Crayon

There are numerous events in our life which we vividly remember, and today I thought to share one from my stock of memories as my first blog.

When I look back in time I see a little girl, aged around 5 or 6. That girl used to be shy, hesitant, and hardly ever tried to speak in front of people. The crowd or gatherings used to make her uncomfortable. She used to get confused when someone used to ask her something.

Once, that girl was having exams of Kindergarten. She was having lunch with her friends and this is when the teacher who was supposed to conduct and check the copies of Art Exam appeared in the classroom. As all of the audience were around 5 and 6, she was telling each and everyone what are they supposed to do in the exam tomorrow. Before leaving the classroom, she strictly mentioned that if there will be a cat in the exam to be colored, any color can be used in the exam, but black.


The next morning, when that girl received her question paper which was all about coloring different stuff. She colored each and everything with different bright colors. At the very last page of the question paper was a huge cat. Even though, she remembered something her teacher told her about coloring, she was still confused if the teacher asked the students to use the color black on the cat or not. Being the one who thought the world will collapse if she will ask a question to be sure about something, she decided to stay quiet and then she picked up her black crayon and started coloring the cat black.

The next day, the teacher came in to the class and distributed the answer sheets to each and everyone so that they can know what they have scored. When that shy soul received her answer sheet, she saw a 0/5 on the cat she colored black with her crayon. The teacher  knew that girl as an average student, but she was upset because of the ignorance of that girl and asked her to be attentive next time.

That was the day when that little girl realized what this hesitance and shyness can take from her. Although, she was very young to decide what she is supposed to do with her life but she decided never to stay quiet when she thinks she need to ask something. This was her turning point, and after that she never hesitated to ask anything from the teacher and this helped her a lot in the academics because this was the reason which was pulling her back from being on the top.

The very next year, when she was attending the annual result she was expecting a 3rd position. The principal was calling the names of 3rd, 2nd and then the 1st position holder. When the turn of her class came, she was ready to listen her name as 3rd position holder, little did she know that it will be her friend. That was the moment she realized that she lacked something and as a little girl with newly born dreams, became much dejected.

She was too heartbroken to even concentrate on the other announcements. The teary-eyed was only looking at the stage but her mind was somewhere else. The 2nd position holder was announced and she knew she have to clap when and where.


“Please give a round of applause for the girl who has secured 1st position, Rija Aleem.”

She became blank, and the teacher standing beside her had to ask her to go and receive the shield for what she has achieved.

This was MY turning point, this was when I knew I never have to limit my thinking with those things which seem unapparent or unattainable at the moment. I got to know what infinity and believing in it meant that day. Since then I have never stopped trying and achieving whatever I wished to. This is how a black crayon changed me, my thinking, and my life.

This was the day I got to know how to rise and shine, and this is what I will continue in my entire blogging. #RiseAndShine